Susan Bradley-Author of How to be Irresistible to the Opposite Sex

Posts Tagged ‘love’

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Have you considered that the journey to love or really your journey to love, is way bigger than just dating and meeting alot of people? Yes it’s more than, falling in love, getting married and having children. I have always been motivated by “love” and explored love. All types of love are important to me.

I believe that if singles and couples look at “love” in a different light, they will be more successful and happy on their own personal journey through life’s challenges. In my own relationships I have always tried to nurture and be responsible for my own personal growth as well as how we grow as a couple. My partner,Al and I invented a simple but very effective-6 step system to falling in love everyday-we call it the K-I-S-S-E-S system. Today’s blog is about the second letter in the system. I for inspiration. We have seen in our own relationship as well as the couples we work with a direct correlation between couples being happy with each other and their life based on “Inspiration”. When couples cause each other to grow they inspire each other. And when each half of a couple inspire and co-inspire each other EVERY DAY, their lives are 100% more happy and fulfilled. If you can inspire each other, you will grow faster, create more opportunities for you and your life together. Luckily, it’s easy to inspire each other. Even a small act will give you or your partner an inspirational “hit” if you will. A feeling of pride will well up inside you when you watch your partner tackle and overcome some work challenge or when you visibly see your beloved let go of some bad habit.

Al, has always used as a mantra the following: See the job. Do the job. Stay out of suffering.

We use this mantra to grow with. If either one of us wants to complain about some task we have to manage we give each other full permission to say out loud. See the job. Do the job. Stay out of suffering.

This one small act, helps us grow and use some of the principles of “The Secret”. By focusing on what you want, rather than what you don’t want, we create more ease, play, and joy in our daily life together. We hold each other accountable for our brain chatter and not polluting each others state of mind with useless complaints. See the job. Do the job. Stay out of suffering. You can take this on as well.

In the book: The Road Less Traveled- Scott considers the nature of love, which he considers the driving force behind spiritual growth. The second section of his book mainly attacks a number of misconceptions about love: that romantic love exists (he considers it a very destructive myth), that it is about dependency, that true love is not “falling in love”.’. Falling in love is actually a feeling. He believes that “true” love is about the extending of one’s ego boundaries to include another, and about the spiritual nurturing of another.

When Al and I remind each other to let go of suffering and complaining and just DO THE JOB (Whatever needs to just get done.) our life keeps humming along.

Your journey to love and loving will have far greater success once you adopt the philosophy that part of the value in having a love relationship beyond companionship is to help each other grow through your daily activities and “how” you take on your life. How will you help your partner grow?

I wouldn’t trade Al in for the world because he nurtures me, supports my being a better person, each day in ways that no other man has ever done before. Are you doing that with your partner? If you are single, are you willing to also help your partner grow?

I “know” that I also cause him to grow beyond what he would have done on his own. Why? When singles live on their own, they can get away with not keeping their promises or even their New Years resolutions because there is no one to notice when they are not keeping their word. It’s easy to act spiritual and kind when you live by yourself. When you live alone, you don’t have to share anything with anyone and don’t have to compromise. But, the moment you realize that your actions directly impact the quality of someone else’s life it’s a very different experience.

I invite you to take on being a source of “Inspiration” today in how you take on your journey to love. If you are not dating…get busy. If you are in a relationship, ask yourself if you have done anything to inspire your partner lately.

Inspiration is not achieved by buying flowers or gifts. Inspiration is more about how you operate in your life. Are you community minded? Do you give your partner reason to feel proud of you? There are many ways that Al inspires me but one of them is his weekly reminder to come from a mindset of being the eye of the storm rather than allowing storms in life to dictate what I do or how I act. It’s a simple but powerful act that supports me in being the best I can be.

I, in turn, support him by reminding him if he complains: to See the Job, Do the job, and stay out of suffering.

Go inspire someone today.